Should You Hire a Dating Coach?
Modern singles find themselves more frustrated with dating more than ever before. Smart singles may consider working with an expert to find love. Will this even help? Should you hire a dating coach? (Learn the difference between a dating coach vs a matchmaker.)
Due to our extremely digitalized world, modern dating has changed drastically over the past decade. Countless dating sites and apps have made your “dating pool” turn more into a “dating ocean”. While it can be extremely beneficial to choose from such a large number of potential dates, it’s severely affected the way singles connect.
Genuinely Ready For Love
Many smart and successful singles are genuinely ready for a meaningful relationship, but are struggling with the dating process.
When you can’t figure out other things in life (leaky sink, broken dryer, noisy transmission) you hire an expert. Why not hire an expert for the most important part of your life?
Dating coaches are similar to life coaches: both professionals help you become more in touch with your authentic self, realize your potential, and guide you to accomplish your biggest dreams. However, a dating coach specializes on your love life.
A holistic approach with a coach provides the most development and long term results. A dating coach should guide you through specific dating scenarios, teach you the skill set to be successful in dating, and create a concrete path to finding the type of relationship you desire.
If you keep doing the same thing over and over… you can expect the same results.
You’re ready to drastically transform your love life, but is hiring a dating coach the right decision for you?
Should You Hire a Dating Coach?
– 6 Things To Consider Before –
1. Open to Growth
You’re starting to recognize that what you’ve been doing isn’t working… but are you really ready for a change?
You can’t have change without challenge.
Dating coaches aren’t magical fairy god mothers. If I could “bibbidi bobbidi boo” clients into instantly finding the one— I would! But since we live in the real world, little mice aren’t going to help us clean and our prince isn’t going to magically show up on a horse. (Find out other dating myths that are keeping you single.)
Just because you pay for a gym membership doesn’t mean you’re magically going to lose weight. You have to show up… and you have to do the work.
Growing in your personal life is the same way.
Make sure you’re open to the process and excited to grow. The journey you’re about to embark on will definitely be fun… but it will also take effort.
Where you choose to spend your time reveals what’s really important to you. Your career, friends, family, hobbies, and even favorite T.V. shows all require a certain amount of your time.
You say you’re ready for a relationship— but are you really ready to invest the time necessary?
Will you invest the time necessary to transform your love life? Are you ready to make meeting with your coach, completing self evaluation worksheets, dating, completing growth assignments, and communicating with your coach a top priority?
Working with a coach can drastically transform your life, however, you must dedicate time to focus on and move towards your goals.
If you’re too busy in other areas of your life, then I suggest waiting to focus on your love life. There’s no point of hiring a dating coach if you can’t take full advantage of the process.
There’s a theory in psychology proposed by Abraham Maslow referred to as “Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.” His theory is often portrayed in the shape of a pyramid with the largest, most fundamental levels of needs at the bottom. Maslow focused on identifying the basic types of human motivation in the order in which they should be met.
Long story short: your most basic physiological needs and safety needs should be met before pursuing love.
If you’re struggling financially, career wise, or health wise— it’s usually best for you to get those fundamental items in order before focusing on dating. Does that mean you need to be rich, working your dream job, and a body builder? Absolutely not!
It simply means to be stable in certain areas before focusing on other areas.
4. Positive Attitude
Coaching works best for individuals who are generally positive and hopeful individuals.
It’s understandable for you to be frustrated with your current situation… that’s why you’re hiring a dating coach after all! But if you’re severely depressed and feel that your situation is completely hopeless— coaching isn’t right for you. What you should know is: your situation is definitely NOT hopeless. If you are clinically depressed, therapy might be a better solution.
It’s important for you to be excited about working with your coach and look forward to the process. The individuals that completely trust the process and invest themselves gain the most from a coaching relationship.
5. Ready to Invest in YOURSELF
Similar to how you spend your time, where you choose to invest reflects what you value in life. People find value in different items: new clothes, expensive cars, decorations for their house, fancy dinners, sparkly jewelry, electronics, manicures, etc.
Working with a coach is an investment in yourself.
The value of working with a great dating coach will outlast any physical item you purchase.
While I definitely see the value in purchasing a great pair of shoes… it’s far more valuable to invest in learning how to take control of your life, your happiness, and the skill set to attract the love of your life.
6. Find the Right Coach!
I can’t stress this enough!
You’ve decided you’re ready to make a change and invest in working with an expert. Great! I’m so excited for you!
Now, become dedicated in finding the right dating coach for you.
You deserve a coach that can meet your specific needs.
Learn more about how to find the right dating coach for you. Your coach needs to be someone you can fully open up to, trust her/his judgment, and embrace her/his guidance.
Not every dating coach is right for every client.
Are You Ready?
Working with a dating coach can be an incredibly positive and life changing experience. If you know in your heart that you’re truly ready to make finding love a priority in your life— then you’re ready to work with the right dating coach.